Bismillah rahman rahim, I am a student of Allah's book in my own free time. I learned to read Arabic by myself and taking Arabic lessons now with a teacher to understand this beautiful language. When it comes to Islam, I do not consider myself a sunni/shia or whatever else there is. I believe that the quran is the book of Allah, and that alone I should follow. Hadith is created by men 300 years after our beloved Prophet SAW died. I still follow his teachings IF they are in accordance with the Quran. One famous scholar who taught me about quranic islam is Sheikh Hassan Farhan al Maliki - I am fond of martial arts, sports, technology and reading books about these things. My hobbies are eating and traveling. I have been married before, and unfortunately things didn't end up well. I will tell everything about that life once I start to trust you, which can take a while because I have a hard time trusting people now due to bad experiences. I hope that is something you can accept from me, as healing takes time and I don't like sharing to strangers. But insha3allah, if we are meant to be, you have the right to know my complete story.
assalamu w;"alaiki ya ukhti. PS: If I don’t respond to your message, please don’t take it personally. We probably wouldn’t make a good fit and I don’t want to waste my time chatting. All the best in your search! - I want a partner who prays, honest, caring, and who can make me laugh and have fun with me. - One who can comfort me when I'm sad. - Age is not important, I see it as just a number because there was also a big difference between Rasulullah SAW and Khadija, so age doesn't matter. - Don't forget that love from a man goes through his stomach hahaha, so yeah cooking is a big plus. - Ofcourse if you're beautiful that's a good thing as well, but if you're capable of the above things, that means Allah has already made you beautiful. - I don't like to waste my time, so no picture is no answer from me. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Now up to the controversial taboo topic for many women....Polygamy. I know many don´t agree with it out of jealousy but ask yourself the following question: DO U BELIEVE IN ALLAH´s WORD?? There is only a yes or no answer. If you´re a real muslima then, you agree with Allah´s law in the quran that allows polygamy. Want to know why Allah allowed polygamy?? Then keep on reading: Note:Now this doesn´t mean I want more than 1 wife, I am just explaining the wisdom behind it and a true muslim(a) would not create drama on that. 1: Marriage helps to increase the numbers of the ummah It is known that the numbers can only be increased through marriage, and the number of offspring gained through plural marriage will be greater than that achieved through marriage to one wife. 2: Statistics show that the number of women is greater than the number of men; if each man were to marry just one woman, this would mean that some women would be left without a husband, which would have a harmful effect on her and on society. The harmful effect is that she would never find a husband to take care of her interests, to give her a place to live, to spend on her, to protect her from haraam desires, and to give her children to bring her joy. This may lead to deviance and going astray, except for those on whom Allaah has mercy. With regard to the harmful effects on society, it is well known that this woman who is left without a husband may deviate from the straight path and follow the ways of promiscuity, so she may fall into the swamp of adultery and prostitution – may Allaah keep us safe and sound – which leads to the spread of immorality and the emergence of fatal diseases such as AIDS and other contagious diseases for which there is no cure. It also leads to family breakdown and the birth of children whose identity is unknown, and who do not know who their fathers are. Those children do not find anyone to show compassion towards them or any mature man to raise them properly. When they go out into the world and find out the truth, that they are illegitimate, that is reflected in their behaviour, and they become exposed to deviance and going astray. They may even bear grudges against society, and who knows? They may become the means of their country’s destruction, leaders of deviant gangs, as is the case in many nations in the world. 3 – Men are exposed to incidents that may end their lives, for they work in dangerous professions. They are the soldiers who fight in battle, and more men may die than women. This is one of the things that raise the percentage of husbandless women, and the only solution to this problem is plural marriage. 4 – There are some men who may have strong physical desires, for whom one wife is not enough. If the door is closed to such a man and he is told, you are not allowed more than one wife, this will cause great hardship to him, and his desire may find outlets in forbidden ways. In addition to that, a woman menstruates each month, and when she gives birth, she bleeds for forty days (this post-partum bleeding is called nifaas in Arabic), at which time a man cannot have intercourse with his wife, because intercourse at the time of menstruation or nifaas is forbidden, and the harm that it causes has been proven medically. So plural marriage is permitted when one is able to be fair and just. 5 – Plural marriage does not exist only in the Islamic religion, rather it was known among the previous nations. Some of the Prophets were married to more than one woman. The Prophet of Allaah Sulaymaan (Solomon) had ninety wives. At the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), there were some men who became Muslims who had eight or five wives. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told them to keep four wives and to divorce the rest. 6 – A wife may be barren, or she may not meet her husband’s needs, or he may be unable to have intercourse with her because she is sick. A husband may long to have children, which is a legitimate desire, and he may want to have a sex life within marriage, which is something permissible, and the only way is to marry another wife. It is only fair for the wife to agree to remain his wife and to allow him to marry another. 7 – A woman may be one of the man’s relatives and have no one to look after her, and she is unmarried or a widow whose husband has died, and the man may think that the best thing to do for her is to include her in his household as a wife along with his first wife, so that he will both keep her chaste and spend on her. This is better for her than leaving her alone and being content only to spend on her. 8 – There are other shar’i interests that call for plural marriages, such as strengthening the bonds between families, or strengthening the bonds between a leader and some of his people or group, and he may think that one of the ways of achieving this aim is to become related to them through marriage, even if that is through plural marriage. Objection: Some people may object and say that plural marriage means having co-wives in one house, and that the disputes and enmity that may arise between co-wives will have an effect on the husband, children and others, and this is harmful and should be avoided, and the only way to prevent that is to ban plural marriage. Response to the objection: The response to that is that family arguments may occur even when there is only one wife, and they may not even happen when there is more than one wife, as we see in real life. Even if we assume that there may be more arguments than in a marriage to one wife, even if we accept that they may be harmful and bad, the harm is outweighed by the many good things in a plural marriage. Life is not entirely bad or entirely good, but what everyone hopes is that the good will outweigh the bad, and this principle is what applies in the permission for plural marriage. Moreover, each wife has the right to her own, separate accommodation as prescribed in Islam. It is not permissible for the husband to force his wives to live together in one house. Another objection: If we allow men to have plural wives, why are women not allowed to have multiple husbands, why does a woman not have the right to marry more than one man? Response to this objection: There is no point in giving a woman the right to marry multiple husbands, rather that is beneath her dignity and she would not know the lineage of her children, because she is the one who bears the offspring, and it is not permissible for the offspring to be formed from the sperm of a number of men lest the lineage of the child be lost and no one will know who is responsible for bringing up the child; this will lead to breakdown of families, loss of ties between fathers and children, which is not permitted in Islam as it is not in the interests of the woman or of the child or of society as a whole. “If a man is able to take a second wife, physically and financially, and he can treat both wives in a just manner, and he wants to, then he is allowed to do so according to Islam. Allah says,“Then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four.â€(An-Nisa’: 3) It is well known that women are by nature jealous and reluctant to share their husband with other women. Women are not to be condemned for this jealousy, for it existed in the best of righteous women, the wives of the Companions, and even in the Mothers of the Believers. But women should not let jealousy make them object to that which Allah has permitted, and they should not try to prevent it; a wife should allow her husband to marry another woman for this is a kind of cooperating in righteousness and piety. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Again this doesn´t mean I want more than 1 wife, I am just explaining the wisdom behind it and a true muslim(a) would not create drama on that.
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