I'm married with 5 children. Polygyny is an abandoned sunnah. Sisters are trying to kill it and brothers are resuscitating it back to life. I've met many sisters who speak of their passion for the deen, how they love Allaah and His messenger (sollallaahu 'alayhiy wa sallam), how Islam, the Quran and sunnah are the only sources they want to follow and obey in life. Their sincerity is soon put to the test when their husbands tell them they're going to marry a second wife or when a single or divorced woman refuses to be a second, third or fourth wife. All that eemaan they spoke about and the beautiful words they uttered of loving everything Allaah Revealed and made halaal is thrown out of the window when it comes to polygyny. Fear Allaah sisters. Do not push your man away for doing something that Allaah has allowed. If he marries over you, he still loves you. When the prophet (sollallaahu 'alayhiy wa sallam) married over his wives, did he hate the the ones he was already married to? Think about what you say before falling into sin. Never forget that the vast majority of inhabitants of hellfire were women, due to ungratefulness to their husbands. Allaah has created men with an expanding appetite for women and made that expansion deflate as soon as he reaches his fourth wife. Don't say or utter what will prove your speech was empty words in the wind. I fear only Allah and accept a man has a role and a woman has a role. When the woman tries taking away the man's role or the man tries taking away the woman's role, expect trouble. I'm not interested in a carrier minded woman who lives for independence and freedom. I respect a woman who works and understands she has a life at home outside work. Both, man and woman should be understanding of gender difference and that way, love will remain and relationships will succeed. I make mistakes and expect my wife to make mistakes. No human being is perfect. I'm not on here to lie, impress or deceive any of Allaah's jewels for fun or to play around with their emotions. I am very honest and will speak the truth. I will not tell a woman what she wants to hear just to make her happy. I will be truthful, even if my sisters don't like it. I will not disrespect, belittle, talk down to, mock, hurt or upset any woman that treats me the same way. I will not marry a woman who is loud and has a problem with male authority, no matter how many days she spends in night prayers. If you don't like what I have to say or feel I'm not compatible with you, al hamdu lillah and may Allah give you the man your heart desires. If you're influenced by the concept of searching for Mr. Right, stop your quest because he doesn't exist and he will never appear. If you think he will, stay at home, cook, clean and look after the family and leave this world as a single woman. There has only ever existed one Mr. Right on this earth and he will never return and he was the infallible Muhammad (sollallaahu 'alayhiy wa sallam).The man you should be looking for is the one that's going to be compatible for you. I am not a millionaire. If you are on here looking for a rich man, I'm not him, so please don't waste your time messaging me. Al hamdu lillah I work and have a full time job. I earn enough to keep my head above water. I have absolutely no interest whatsoever in a woman who smokes or plucks her eyebrows. If your beauty shines like the heavenly stars, it will make no difference to me. Again, please sisters, if you smoke or do pluck your eyebrows, don't message me. However, if you do have a bad habit or addiction that I feel I can deal with, I will consider it. All I want is honesty. I will not lie about anything on here about myself and you can ask me anything you want, even if it's personal and you will only get the truth. I expect the same from you. As soon as one lie enters into the conversation, it will be exposed and if you lie at this stage, then you are not marriage material, man or woman. I'm looking for a wife who comes to me in her natural beauty - the way Allah created her. I understand that women love to adorn themselves to look beautiful for a man, but plastering your faces with makeup and adorning yourselves with these silly snap chat pictures does you no justice and misleads the man. Don't go out of your way to beautify yourselves for a man who's only interested in one thing. You are more precious than that. If a man doesn't accept the looks Allah gave you, he will never accept you. Be yourself and don't tell a man something that's not true to win his heart over. That's wrong because he's weak. Be balanced in life. I don't want a woman who says she lives by the deen and says she's rejected the dunyaa and vice versa. This is not permissible. This is fanatical and stupid. Be wise and understand balance. If a husband isn't patient with his wife's mistakes, he should fear Allah and ask Allah to soften his heart and be kind and gentle towards her. The husband must treat his wife like a shining jewel that sparkles in the palm of his hand and give her the rights that Allaah and His messenger (sollallaahu 'alayhiy wa sallam) have given her. He must show her love and affection, keep her safe and be her protector. Respect him and don't burden him beyond his financial and physical abilities. I am romantic, al hamdu lillaah. I have so much love and passion to give a woman and know how to make her breathless with rapturous euphoria and I hope, in shaa Allaah, there's a woman out there who's ready to be taken to please her husband and for him to please her in that which is halaal. The woman must also know her position in the marriage. She should also treat him with the same love and affection. She should acknowledge he's the man and accept that obedience to him, in that which is good, is compulsory. If he makes a mistake, she too should be patient with him. There is no pleasure on this earth more joyous and wonderful than when a husband and wife have fun together, laugh and joke, show their love for each other and feel the passion between their hearts. Treat each other according to each other's gender and Allaah will bless your marriage. May Allah guide us all and write for us partners that will be there for one another to live by His Commands that we may attain jannat al firdaws and the greatest joy of seeing Allah The Most Glorious and Exalted.
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